I (27M) married my wife (24F) two years ago after knowing her for six months. We met at a wedding through family connections, and after getting to know each other, we decided to get engaged and marry. Before the marriage, I was very clear about my deal-breaker: I didn’t want a partner who had been physically involved with someone else. My wife assured me this wouldn’t be an issue, and I saw no red flags, so we moved forward.
For two years, our marriage was smooth. I loved and trusted her completely, and we were happy—or so I thought. Two weeks ago, I received a call from an unknown number. I ignored it at first, but after three missed calls, I answered. A stranger told me to check my WhatsApp, saying he’d destroy his SIM card afterward, then hung up.
When I opened WhatsApp, I found over 30 explicit videos of my wife with another man. I was devastated. My world shattered as I realized the woman I trusted had betrayed me. Unable to process it, I left work and rushed home to confront her.
At first, she denied everything and accused me of being mentally unstable. After I revealed the videos, she broke down in tears, begged for forgiveness, and clung to me, apologizing over and over. I couldn’t stand to look at her. I told her to leave the house before I did something rash. She refused, so I called her brother to take her away. When he arrived, I didn’t explain much—just told him to leave with her immediately. I left for a walk, and when I returned, she was gone.
I contacted a friend who’s a divorce lawyer and started the process to end the marriage. A few days later, my wife tried calling and eventually sent me a report confirming she’s pregnant. I wasn’t sure if the child was mine, as one of the videos was recorded about a week before the anonymous call. When I asked her about it, she insisted the child was mine and continued begging for another chance. She admitted the man in the videos was her ex-boyfriend—who also happened to be her cousin. She claimed she didn’t know why he sent the videos but maintained that she didn’t want to lose me.
I told her I couldn’t forgive her, as she not only betrayed me but also lied to me repeatedly. I blocked her and told her to expect the divorce papers. Her parents later got involved. Her father visited my house, apologizing for her actions and asking me to reconsider. He even offered to raise the child himself and offered to buy me a house we had planned to purchase before all this happened. I declined and told him I wouldn’t reconcile with his daughter.
Her mother came a few days later, begging me to speak to her daughter. She admitted she knew about the affair but didn’t know it had turned physical. She explained that she saw me as a stable and reliable husband for her daughter. She apologized but also mentioned that her daughter was threatening to harm herself if I didn’t take her back. I told her there was no chance of reconciliation and made it clear I wouldn’t be swayed.
Since then, her family has been pressuring me to reconcile. They argue that her mistakes happened before our marriage, that she deeply regrets hiding them, and that the child deserves to be raised in a united home. They’ve even tried to guilt me, saying her past shouldn’t overshadow our future.
I stand firm in my decision to divorce her, but her family’s persistence has made me question myself. AITA for leaving my pregnant, cheating wife?
Edit:
Apologies for any mistakes—English is not my first language. I also want to clarify a few things: I accidentally used “men” instead of “man.” The videos were mostly old and taken during their long-term relationship. I live in a Muslim country, where adultery is viewed as a grave sin, so I believe the anonymous sender didn’t disclose his identity to avoid potential legal repercussions. My family has remained neutral, mainly out of concern for the child.
